How can I improve emotional intelligence with ADHD? 

Emotional intelligence can feel harder to develop when you live with ADHD. Research suggests that people with ADHD are more likely to experience differences in emotional awareness, recognition and regulation, alongside higher rates of alexithymia and rejection sensitivity. A recent meta-analysis found consistent difficulties recognising emotions in faces and voices, supporting the idea that emotion-processing differences are part of the condition rather than an occasional comorbidity (Emotion Processing Meta-analysis). The encouraging news is that emotional intelligence can be strengthened with the right strategies and support. 

Emotional recognition and awareness 

Studies show that people with ADHD often experience challenges identifying and naming their emotions, which can make it harder to respond intentionally. Clinical reviews also highlight that emotion dysregulation is common, particularly during stress or rapid mood shifts, which can affect relationships and self-confidence (ADHD and Alexithymia Review). 

Social-emotional processing 

Systematic reviews report differences in recognising tone, facial cues and nonverbal signals, which can influence empathy and mutual understanding. These social-cognition patterns can contribute to misunderstandings even when intentions are positive (Social Cognition Review). 

Strategies that build emotional intelligence 

NICE recommends psychoeducation, communication strategies, environmental adjustments and psychological interventions, including ADHD-focused CBT and skills-based work, to support emotional regulation and awareness (NICE NG87). Mindfulness and acceptance-based approaches can help people notice emotions earlier, pause before reacting and choose more helpful responses. Emerging research also suggests that therapies targeting alexithymia can meaningfully improve emotional clarity. 

Private services like ADHD Certify offer assessments and post-diagnostic reviews that can help individuals understand their emotional patterns and explore appropriate interventions. 

Key takeaway 

Emotional intelligence is a skill that develops with practice. With supportive strategies, therapy and a better understanding of ADHD, many people find they can recognise emotions sooner, regulate more effectively and build stronger relationships. 

Avery Lombardi, MSc

Author

Avery Lombardi is a clinical psychologist with a Master’s in Clinical Psychology and a Bachelor’s in Psychology. She has professional experience in psychological assessment, evidence-based therapy, and research, working with both child and adult populations. Avery has provided clinical services in hospital, educational, and community settings, delivering interventions such as CBT, DBT, and tailored treatment plans for conditions including anxiety, depression, and developmental disorders. She has also contributed to research on self-stigma, self-esteem, and medication adherence in psychotic patients, and has created educational content on ADHD, treatment options, and daily coping strategies.

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Dr. Rebecca Fernandez, MBBS

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Dr. Rebecca Fernandez is a UK-trained physician with an MBBS and experience in general surgery, cardiology, internal medicine, gynecology, intensive care, and emergency medicine. She has managed critically ill patients, stabilised acute trauma cases, and provided comprehensive inpatient and outpatient care. In psychiatry, Dr. Fernandez has worked with psychotic, mood, anxiety, and substance use disorders, applying evidence-based approaches such as CBT, ACT, and mindfulness-based therapies. Her skills span patient assessment, treatment planning, and the integration of digital health solutions to support mental well-being.

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